there are sexual problems? The wife complains, “My husband comes home, I haven’t had any kind of involvement with him, no communication. He says, ‘Honey …’ I look at him and say, ‘Who are you? Leave me alone!’ But he wants to make it better by going to bed. He thinks that it will make me feel close to him.” Though no flagrant immorality is involved here, there is “cheating”—sex without intimacy. I called the behavior of my sex-offender counselee “cheating” because his whole sexual life—his marriage,